tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37540506.post884747091289429766..comments2023-11-05T05:39:45.583-05:00Comments on Jason. For the love of God.: Horrible, shocking confession.That Chick Over Therehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03066031548129806050noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37540506.post-4325646617507615682008-04-02T00:04:00.000-05:002008-04-02T00:04:00.000-05:00I'm waiting for the Jerry Springer post!I'm waiting for the Jerry Springer post!EEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15025777317455781050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37540506.post-61325102112058978792008-03-29T21:10:00.000-05:002008-03-29T21:10:00.000-05:00oh, and seriously? Jerry Springer?? WTF?oh, and seriously? Jerry Springer?? WTF?CPA Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04061480718263842210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37540506.post-69286359892707954202008-03-29T21:07:00.000-05:002008-03-29T21:07:00.000-05:00We didn't go to church either. Since I was in bed ...We didn't go to church either. Since I was in bed recovering from surgery and all. And high on vicodin. but still.<BR/><BR/>I applaud your decision. You aren't juding the paster by his relative but keeping Jason and you far far away from a skank that needs a lesson or two taught to her and really? church isn't the place to do that.<BR/><BR/>Try the new church. Make your peace anyway you can. You deserve it.<BR/><BR/>I hate church on Christmas and Easter anyway. It's too crowded with the 2x a year churchgoers. We'll be back tomorrow and I'd bet dollars to doughnuts (mmmm, doughnuts) that the church will be empty again.CPA Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04061480718263842210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37540506.post-90961438916566647032008-03-29T12:25:00.000-05:002008-03-29T12:25:00.000-05:00Damn Chick, you made me cry.I am sure God got your...Damn Chick, you made me cry.<BR/>I am sure God got your logic. <BR/>Why does life have to be so damn hard!?Heather J.https://www.blogger.com/profile/05577506737353488166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37540506.post-77331610079235134072008-03-28T15:16:00.000-05:002008-03-28T15:16:00.000-05:00I think God is ok with your logic too!CHurch, in m...I think God is ok with your logic too!<BR/><BR/>CHurch, in my book, is a place where everyone should feel safe, welcomed and comfortable. If you don't I think checking out a new church is a great idea.Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02500011459345862059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37540506.post-15823123659515569772008-03-28T12:58:00.000-05:002008-03-28T12:58:00.000-05:00All I will say is that God is watching her and she...All I will say is that God is watching her and she will have to answer to Him. <BR/><BR/>You do what's best for you and your family. It's not running away. You don't go to church to gossip and see who's wearing what and seeing who. You go to worship.Rachel (Crazy-Is)https://www.blogger.com/profile/05786360241354496729noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37540506.post-20022527335623620632008-03-28T10:19:00.000-05:002008-03-28T10:19:00.000-05:00I'd go to the church, walk up to the lady and say ...I'd go to the church, walk up to the lady and say "Thank you so much for being a lying cheating sack of whatever and getting my husband fired. He got a much better job that he would never have had the opportunity to apply for and he's making a ton more money, so I really wanted to thank you for doing us a favor"<BR/><BR/>Even if it's not true.<BR/><BR/>yeah, i know. There's a special place in hell for me.<BR/><BR/>I need to find a church also...Sabrinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18019560376696661985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37540506.post-38745128719841221772008-03-28T09:44:00.001-05:002008-03-28T09:44:00.001-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.BandKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10111197063546332024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37540506.post-22676711496918424542008-03-28T09:44:00.000-05:002008-03-28T09:44:00.000-05:00p.s. I totally agree with Tiger Lamb. If you slink...p.s. I totally agree with Tiger Lamb. If you slink away without stating your side of things (to the pastor only, as she said) then it will look like the witch-with-a-capital-b is right and they might think that maybe Jason DID do the things she says he did, even if he didn't. And if the people in the church know you guys, and they all believe her over him? Then truly after speaking with the pastor, you really need to find a new church home that 1) doesn't participate in vicious gossip, and 2) has a spirit of acceptance and love.<BR/><BR/>Good luck to you! :-)BandKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10111197063546332024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37540506.post-91810542623225848492008-03-28T09:43:00.000-05:002008-03-28T09:43:00.000-05:00p.s. I totally agree with Tiger Lamb. If you slink...p.s. I totally agree with Tiger Lamb. If you slink away without stating your side of things (to the pastor only, as she said) then it will look like the witch-with-a-capital-b is right and they might think that maybe Jason DID do the things she says he did, even if he didn't. And if the people in the church know you guys, and they all believe her over him? Then truly after speaking with the pastor, you really need to find a new church home that 1) doesn't participate in vicious gossip, and 2) has a spirit of acceptance and love.<BR/><BR/>Good luck to you! :-)BandKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10111197063546332024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37540506.post-23539840929360866482008-03-28T09:39:00.000-05:002008-03-28T09:39:00.000-05:00You know what??? We didn't do anything either!! Sh...You know what??? We didn't do anything either!! Shhhh don't tell. But I think the Big Guy in the Sky doesn't care about that. He knows what's in your heart, and that's all that counts. <BR/><BR/>My husband and I come from different denominations, and we've never been able to find a happy medium, so we haven't attended church in years. I'm Methodist and he's Episcopal, so I'm used to a more casual worship style and he's used to a very formal worship style. I'm not comfortable in his church and vice versa. I miss the fellowship, but we're at loggerheads over it. <BR/><BR/>Anyway, no worries. The Big Guy loves ya! :-)BandKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10111197063546332024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37540506.post-76370511355410984752008-03-28T09:34:00.000-05:002008-03-28T09:34:00.000-05:00Most churches today are filled with people like th...Most churches today are filled with people like this lady. It makes me mad. People should go to church to form a strong bond with god and the people within their community. Not to destroy it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37540506.post-5161156122110573702008-03-28T08:54:00.000-05:002008-03-28T08:54:00.000-05:00I think that too many of us can identify with not ...I think that too many of us can identify with not being good enough. <BR/><BR/>The most powerful thing I have come across lately is forgiveness. I can't explain it fully (see Louise Hay books) but it's like the more you rage against someone and what they've done to you, the more power they have over you. It just hurts you in the end.<BR/><BR/>Oh yeah, and forgive yourself too. :) You are awesome and strong and an incredible writer. :)LzyMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08709940070805910842noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37540506.post-66929362893687354192008-03-27T23:48:00.000-05:002008-03-27T23:48:00.000-05:00good luck in your search! we finally found a plac...good luck in your search! we finally found a place. it's NOT church. it's a "bible study" like no other bible study you have ever seen. the leader is an ordained minister who hates organized religion! what hooked me was that his class on "relgion vs. relationship" - yeah, religion is man, not God, if it was God there would only be ONE. i know you are too far away but you and Jason would definitely be welcome on Wednesday nights :)<BR/><BR/>no matter what else, we tell ourselves... WE GOT WEDNESDAY!PaintedPromisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05771284709068251348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37540506.post-56557664353601381212008-03-27T23:11:00.000-05:002008-03-27T23:11:00.000-05:00Seriously? COME ON. What a loser.It's been my expe...Seriously? COME ON. What a loser.<BR/><BR/>It's been my experience that the most "religious" people (in all faith at that) are usually the most condescending, critical, and hypocritical folks. Not that she's religious by virtue of being related to a pastor and all...<BR/><BR/>Good luck with finding a new spot.KiKihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07935706632626613446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37540506.post-5744540234873879702008-03-27T21:19:00.000-05:002008-03-27T21:19:00.000-05:00Going to a church you want to be in and see people...Going to a church you <I>want</I> to be in and see people at and feel at home and relaxed in is wonderful. It is unfortunate that the one you had been attending has worked out and I hope the one down the street is wonderful.<BR/><BR/>And all that other stuff? No one is normal. It takes tremendous courage to face you problems and get better, no matter what you think. :p That is wonderful that it gets a little easier every day.Jenskihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05368202166540468533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37540506.post-40290527925376725442008-03-27T20:17:00.000-05:002008-03-27T20:17:00.000-05:00I don't think it's running away. I think that you ...I don't think it's running away. I think that you are in between a rock and a hard place there, so you should go to another church. I don't blame you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37540506.post-56595464915084102632008-03-27T19:47:00.000-05:002008-03-27T19:47:00.000-05:00You know what? I don't blame you one little bit. ...You know what? I don't blame you one little bit. I do the same thing, and I think it's a self preservation mechanism. Focus on your family and ya'll can get through this together.<BR/><BR/>Good luck finding a new church. It's hard, I know.Ediehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13446067323901501183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37540506.post-16798135459987382962008-03-27T19:14:00.000-05:002008-03-27T19:14:00.000-05:00Oh and seriously. That is why I stopped going to ...Oh and seriously. That is why I stopped going to church. Because, you know, it is generally the pastor's sister or wife or such who is the person who causes the most drama.Triciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10715187918892679058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37540506.post-73276873367613031242008-03-27T19:13:00.000-05:002008-03-27T19:13:00.000-05:00We celebrated Easter...well the bunny part. Not t...We celebrated Easter...well the bunny part. Not the God part. I have a feeling that is bad. I mean, I observed lent and all, but then it came down to Easter Day and NOTHING.Triciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10715187918892679058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37540506.post-77549874025592748072008-03-27T18:35:00.000-05:002008-03-27T18:35:00.000-05:00Oh Chick. I know just how you feel. Really, I do. ...Oh Chick. I know just how you feel. Really, I do. I mean, I can totally understand not wanting to go to a church where you feel beat up on when you can do that just fine all by yourself.<BR/><BR/>I almost lost my faith over shit like that.<BR/><BR/>I think you should approach the pastor (pray about it first) and let him know why you've decided to leave the church (if you're actually leaving for good). He needs to know what happened. If He's really anointed? He'll receive what you say in the right spirit. End of.<BR/><BR/>What's that passage in Matthew? (I'm googling it now).<BR/>Okay, I'm back.<BR/>Here it is:<BR/>Matthew 18:15-17<BR/>"15"If your brother sins against you,[a] go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over. 16But if he will not listen, take one or two others along, so that 'every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.'[b] 17If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, treat him as you would a pagan or a tax collector."<BR/><BR/>Where it says the church - I wouldn't do it in front of like the WHOLE church - but I would definitely go to the pastor - or some elder/deacon - someone in authority in the church who's got the right spirit about these kinds of matters. Someone who cares about the health of the church.<BR/><BR/>This stuff is what tears churches apart. NO ONE in church should make you feel you're not welcome there anymore. You shouldn't allow - or give ANYONE permission to do that to you.<BR/><BR/>And no one in a church should put up with church members acting like that!!! They need to be called out on their behaviour. <BR/><BR/>Chick, I think if you walk away quietly? And don't deal with this? It'll follow you somehow. (I don't mean it's your fault either). I mean this scenario will happen again. I think it's a spiritual thing going on - maybe a test of faith - maybe a nudge from God for you to turn to His word and seek answers there. <BR/><BR/>Don't let that asswipe (you know who I'm talking about, right?) win. You've got a greater power in you, if you ask Him for guidance on this one. It's His battle with cancerous spirits like this - not (y)ours. Hand it over to Him. And stand strong in faith that He'll deal with it.<BR/><BR/>Here's the next part of that verse:<BR/>Matt 18:18<BR/>18"I tell you the truth, whatever you bind on earth will be[c]bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be[d] loosed in heaven."<BR/><BR/>Bind that bastard from having any hold over you. I have a hunch you know where to lay it.<BR/><BR/>There. How's that for some sisterly encouragement? I think God will forgive me for going way beyond 'crap', don't you? Self-righteous church members wouldn't, but then I don't care what THEY think.<BR/><BR/>If you wanna chat about it some more - lemme know;). {{{hugs}}} I'm here. And I mean that.<BR/>Bless you - xoxo, TLGAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37540506.post-55198250405156301492008-03-27T17:47:00.000-05:002008-03-27T17:47:00.000-05:00Someone once told me.... "God doesn't care what ch...Someone once told me.... "God doesn't care what church you go to, as long as you go"> Now I am a non believr and i don't go to church, so take what you will fronm that. The saying is def cute.Denisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03519732798505354256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37540506.post-77686219823506468462008-03-27T17:44:00.000-05:002008-03-27T17:44:00.000-05:00Boy do I understand the messed-up family and the f...Boy do I understand the messed-up family and the feeling always like you're never good enough! <BR/><BR/>As for the church, I don't see it as running away. There are family members I don't see and haven't seen for many years because it is simply not healthy to do so. And, frankly, I don't think you have anything to prove to this woman. I don't see any point in going someplace to worship God where you will feel too uncomfortable to do so. It's not running away, it's healing and caring for YOURSELF and YOUR spiritual life. <BR/><BR/>Wishing you both the best and SO glad that Jason has another job!!!! :)Actorgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15295187029389774381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37540506.post-49134002867285365662008-03-27T17:01:00.000-05:002008-03-27T17:01:00.000-05:00Oh hun...owie. How hard to have someone come into...Oh hun...owie. How hard to have someone come into one of your happy places and wreck it like that. I really hope you can find welcome someone more comfortable for you guys.Kimberly Vanderhorsthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01653757517652257445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37540506.post-41594285166226049202008-03-27T16:45:00.000-05:002008-03-27T16:45:00.000-05:00I am glad you guys are trying a new church. Don't ...I am glad you guys are trying a new church. Don't let the bad people keep you down, keep moving forward. Yay for you!Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03760990931331955567noreply@blogger.com