Tuesday, July 22, 2008

An eternal flame.

When I was in the 8th grade, I was in puffy pink heart luuuuuuuv with a boy named Ben.

I thought about Ben all the time, and what I could do to make Ben love me.

Ben? He was the nicest boy and ended up being a good friend. But he never loved me.


I was relating this my children the other day, trying to explain to them why you love a lot of people in your life before you find the one that you want to settle down with and marry. I explained to him that even though I thought I had really serious feelings for Ben, what it really turned out to be was a case of nothing more than Puppy Love.

Boy Child listened very intently and said, "But mom? Isn't Puppy Love real love?"

And I told him it was. Sure it is. It's not the same as true and lasting love, usually, but it really is love.

And then Boy Child's eyes got really really wide and he said,




"But you love daddy more, right?"



Right.




I hope Ben is happy though, wherever he is. He was a really nice boy.

13 comments:

Lara said...

There are so may ways to love. And often people don't realize that. Even loving someone doesn't always mean you're meant to be together. Good for you... teaching boy child about this at a young age. :)

Misty said...

It's so challenging, in the mind of a child, to try to explain that love isn't JUST love, but complex...

Laura said...

Gosh what a hard thing to try and explain - sometimes I dont even get it!!

In the moment that puppy love does feel so real!

Rachel said...

It's funny when you look back and think about the times you just knew you were in love and you realize that you weren't even close. And, man, if love isn't one of the hardest things to ever explain.

giants fan said...

puppy love sure can feel real! :)

Kiki said...

Ahhh... Puppy love! Puppy love is like true and lasting love with training wheels.

B&K said...

Puffy pink heart luuuuvvve. How cute is that?!? I LOVE that expression. What a clever turn of phrase!

Angie said...

Yeah. . .my "Ben" is named "Brent."

Only, he pink puffy hearts boys instead of girls.

Made Mark nervous . . . at first.

Anonymous said...

Stupid cunt whore.

B&K said...

Someone let anonymous out of the asylum too soon . . . LOL

Tara said...

go away anonymous, no one wants to read your opinions here.



I gave you an award today (which you can feel free to completely ignore :)) at http://tarasviewoftheworld.blogspot.com/2008/07/linky-love.html

Emma in Canada said...

I love how kiki decribed it! That's the best and I am so going to use it with my kids.

Mine was called Colin. I've looked for him on facebok but he's not there.

Lil Mouse said...

my puppy love died in 7th grade. yeah talk about screwing you up for a long time.