Tuesday, September 23, 2008

Am I on Candid Camera?

Okay, so remember this?

Well, you are doing better than me, if you remember it. Because I had darn near forgot it even happened. I mean, it's been more than a month. I sort of assumed that Jason and I wouldn't hear anything back.

And that's fine, you know? We weren't mean. We were very clear in what we were after. And, we thought, it just wasn't meant to be.

So yesterday? I come home and open up my mailbox and there is a letter.

This time? Addressed to both of us. Not just Jason.

Wasn't awful.

She apologized.

Now, was it the apology I hoped for? No. It didn't say, "You know, I really screwed up and apparently if my son loves you then you are a Pretty, Pretty Princess and I was totally wrong and I suck and you rule". And let's be honest. That would be pretty unrealistic.

But it was an apology.

I didn't expect an apology. I so didn't expect an apology that I looked at Jason and said, "Oh shit. She apologized. What do we do now?"

There was no plan because there was never going to be an apology.


I don't know what to do now. Nothing? Something? I'm not sure.

It's been four years since Jason's talked to them. More than like four and a half years since I've talked to any of them.

I don't know what you say after four years. I really don't.

Then, I was driving to work this morning and my mom called and said, "I could really tell you've lost weight. Your walking is really paying off. You are looking really good."

This is huge.

Did everyone in that town drink the Kool-Aid or what?

What the crap?


Betsey Booms said...

Wow! It just made my whole day to read things like that.

Go buy a lottery ticket or something.

Chelle said...

awesome, and awesome-er!

How much have you lost, btw?

Kimberly said...

Isn't it weird how something technically good can throw you for as much of a loop as something terrible?


kristi said...

My sister still won't apologize..this is big news for his mom to do that!

kristi said...

My sister still won't apologize..this is big news for his mom to do that!

kristi said...

My sister still won't apologize..this is big news for his mom to do that!

AndreAnna said...

Good news!

Sorry your mom is like that. I can't imagine that's fun to grow up around but glad you got a compliment about how awesome you're doing!

Cat said...

Wonders never cease to amaze! Wow!!


Breigh (Canadutch) said...

Man, in law troubles can be difficult. I'm not sure how I'd react if I ever got a letter of apology from my father in law (not that I ever will). He's been quite terrible towards me over the years and I don't see it ending anytime soon.

If I did get a little like that, pretty sure I'd shit twice and die.

Must have felt great getting that compliment from your mom. If she doesn't hand them out easily then it must really be true :) Congrats!

Meagan said...


I have similar in-law issues. I would most certainly crap myself if they ever did something so (on its face, at least) mature.

Congrats on the Mom compliment! My mother never acknowledges anything positive in my life, but recently told me my clothes look awful (because I've lost weight). I? Took it as a compliment.

Robyn said...

It's not Kool-Aid, it's karma.

You've been putting some good stuff out there into the universe and now it's coming back.

Tiger Lamb Girl said...

The choice is clear. Forgive and move forward with a clean slate. Otherwise? Nothing will ever move toward reconciliation.

I guess the question you must ask yourselves now is, do you want reconciliation?

I'm hoping, for your sakes, it's the affirmative.


Anonymous said...

It's nice to hear something positive. Four years is a long time, but I know you'll think of something to say.

Angie said...

Now THAT is the kind of blog post I needed to see today! :)

the planet of janet said...

dude, the heavens are SO aligned in your house of cards.

uh. wait. did i get mixed up here?

yeah. so... COOL, not kool-aid!

Catwoman said...

Hurray!!!! And maybe this means hell has frozen over and I should pack my skates and scarf?

giants fan said...

well, smack my ass and call me Judy!

Julie said...

I think I just saw a pig fly by my window.

Horray for you - you DESERVED the apology and the compliment. Enjoy them!

Wenderina said...

It just goes to show you that when you start concentrating on what you want and need and stop worrying about everyone else, everyone else either drops off (and who cares anymore) or turns it around. It's like good karma - you've been putting good stuff out there so it comes back to you now.

Emma in Canada said...

First off, way to go on noticeable weight loss!

I think you should take this for what it is...a step in the right direction. I wouldn't plan on things every being perfect, but hopefully there is a chance for some level of family relationship.

Coal Miner's Granddaughter said...

I'm so glad Jason's mom came to some of her senses. And I'm so glad you've lost weight and are looking ever-so svelte! Congrats on both counts!

Wondering Woman said...

You guys should send his mom a card saying how glad you were to hear from her to keep the momentum going ... don't look in the rearview mirror... and she'll probably piss you off every time you deal with her but really..... it'll be better than nothing. Hooray, sounds like you and the universe are humming the same tune.

Karin's Korner said...

WOW!! Thats it....just WOW!

Anonymous said...

I'm with the "buy a lottery ticket" suggestion...

That is wonderful stuff that's happening your way, Chick!

Anonymous said...

Congrats on the weight loss and your mom's positive comments.
Since you asked, I think you should try to have a reconciliation with the MIL. She did write, after all, and I'm sure it was difficult for her. I rather imagine that everything won't be copasetic, but you will at least have a "working" relationship. Go for it.

Kat said...

That's truly awesome. Its good mom juju.

Rebecca said...

I would go ahead and make contact to acknowledge the apology. Never, ever leave the ball in YOUR court if you can help it. Good luck.

SJ said...

I'd acknowledge the apology and move forward maybe with a clean slate? Hell, I don't know.

And Go You! How much weight have you lost? Are you up for sharing?

Rachel said...

Can you bottle some of that kool-aid and send me some?