Saturday, May 12, 2007

Alert the media! I've got mail!

Once again, Chick will dig into her in-box to bring you the finest questions the Internet has to offer. Enjoy!

You've mentioned your brother, but you never talk about him. Why?

Eh. I dunno.

We used to be close. When we were little children? We were the best of friends. We're only 18 months apart in age.

Then? I don't know.


At some point we just started making really, really, really vastly different decisions for our lives. And due to that, we just aren't as close as we used to be. I respect his right to make his own decisions, even if I don't agree with them. I expect him to respect that I choose to raise my children and live my life in a different way. It works out fine when we do see each other.

I love him and all, but we just aren't close.

Were you and Jason excited when you found out you were having twins?

Well, in 1997 when I found out I was having twins, I was two and 1/2 years away from even meeting Jason. He was probably dating the girl that his mom really wanted him to marry at that time. So, I really doubt he was excited about my pregnancy.

Also? I was excited, but really scared. My fear turned to abject terror when my husband at the time left me a few weeks later.

Why doesn't your ex-husband have a relationship with the twins?

Because he sucks butt?

I don't know! Dude! Ask him.

No wait, don't ask him. If he finds out you want to know there's the potential that he would FIND me.

I think it's very rude that you don't let your ex-husband see your children. Children need both parents you know!

No, really? What an odd policy!

Actually, according to the legal paperwork, my ex-husband has joint custody, despite the fact that he pays zero dollars and zero cents in child support and paid a total of less than $1600 the entire time he DID bother to pay, which was for less than one year. He is legally allowed to have them whenever he wants. I would even drive them six or seven hundred miles each way to see him. All he had to do was ask. Since he hasn't, you know, asked for them in over eight years, I'm fairly certain he doesn't want to see them.

Also? Those snap judgements you have going on? Keep that up. Really. It's soooooo becoming!

What kind of relationship do you have with your parents?

I would call it good. We get along and I worry about them and care about their well-being. My mom and I get along better since I moved five hundred miles away from her, I guess. But I do love her, a lot.

And my dad? He's alright for a white guy.

No! Just lying. My dad totally rocks. He's the best dad I could have ever, ever hoped for and my children could not have a better grandfather. I worry about him almost constantly since he was diagnosed with cancer last year.

You've mentioned your grandmother, but never your grandfather. Why?

I talk a lot about one grandmother, but I have three actually. My mother's mother (the one I talk about a lot), my father's mother (she doesn't really have anything to do with us) and my mother's mother's mother! I have a great grandmother! Doesn't that rock?

I don't have any grandfathers anymore, which saddens me a lot. My great-grandfather died in 1994 and it absolutely broke my heart. He was a mean, crotchety old thing, but he loved me the best. No really, he did. Then, when my twins were a couple of months old, my maternal grandfather died. That really blew also. Two years later, my paternal grandfather died. That was the first time I had ever seen my father cry and I don't think anything in my life has ever hurt me that badly.

What exactly is it that you do and where do you work?

Dude. Like I'm going to tell you THAT.

I mean, COME ON.

Some people who blog know, and that's cool. But I'm not going to freaking announce it. I really think with some of the things I talk about that people already know, without me saying. It's a really big, nationally known place.

It's like a don't ask, don't tell thing. Without the military.

I'm sorry about your secondary infertility. Thanks. Have you ever thought about adoption?

Sure! Two of my co-workers recently adopted from China and another co-worker fostered a child and is now adopting him, so it's something I think about quite a bit, actually.

Emotionally, I'm not sure I'm ready for that right now. And I know I'm not financially, because it takes a buttload and a boocoo of money to do that.

But in a few years, I'll probably revisit it. Because being a mom is really one of the only things on this planet I'm actually good at.

You are really hard on yourself.

True dat.

I know this isn't actually a question, but I kind of wanted to address it, because several of my bloggy friends have mentioned this.

I am hard on myself. I used to believe it was motivating. Like, when I was in college? It's hard enough to be in college and have two kids and a husband and a puppy and a full-time job. But I had to push it further. I had to get straight A's. I had to start a Girl Scout troop. I had to start this blog. I had to do everything. I felt compelled. I felt like there was no options, no choices. I had to do it.

Why? I dunno. To prove something? I guess? To myself. Because no one else gave a crap.

I think being left by my first husband affected me profoundly, and I just didn't deal with it. I failed at marriage, I failed at my first pregnancy, I failed at my second pregnancy (miscarriage), and now I've failed at...well, fertility in general. So I had to succeed at something. And first that something was school. Now it's work. It's this blog. It's, well, everything else in my life.

Man, this is to deep for Saturday morning. What the crap?

Moving on.

You talk about God a lot, but you use curse words and get really angry. Do you think you are a good example of a Christian?

Hell yeah I do! And I think God and Jesus think I kick butt and take names.

Because, seriously? Who said Christians are perfect? Or even have to try to be?

Nobody tell me if the Bible really, actually says that. Okay? I'd be mondo embarrassed.

I love God. I'm not ashamed to tell people that. Some people think I'm a flake because I think that way. That's cool. That's their right. But I still think this way. I'm still going to think this way and what they think won't stop me from thinking this way.

I'm not going to shove it down anyone's throat. But God and I are peeps.

Are you really writing a book?

I am. I don't know if it will ever be published or if anyone will ever read it, but I am. If it does get published, I'll be a total attention whore about it, so I promise you will know.

That's all for today! Thanks for writing!

If you have a question for me, feel free to write me at:

I can't promise I'll be quick about answering though.


nailgirl24 said...

Wow chick, you are like famous and stuff. Seriously people dont have anything better to do then ask you stupid questions??

M said...

good cod the shit people ask. i love it. *rolls eyes now*

lily just shit in their general direction. and i'll leave the diaper for the asshat judgmental freaks to deal with.

though i will say answering snap judgment questions really can make for interesting answers. so i guess woot to people asking asshat questions (not all these were but damn many were)

serious to cod if i got these in my inbox? i'd just cry. i'm a wiener like that.

Kimberly said...

Can't wait till I'm famous enough to have people pick apart my life like that. =P Okay, so some of the questions were nice, but what was with the judgmental ones?? - I promise to buy a copy, okay?

stepmomof2 said...

Whoa, I could have almost wrote what you wrote word for word about my brother except we are nineteen months apart! We too were best friends growing up, but have now gone our separate ways.

Alpha Dude 1.5 said...

Nobody is perfect. The only person that was perfect is Jesus and God sent Him to pay the price for our sins.

The Bible also says that are to not sin in our anger. That means it is okay to get angry, just be careful what we choose to do about it.

You Rock, Chick!
Keep up the good work!


Angie said...

girl - you are awesome!

I am so blessed by your blog. . . no matter WHAT you're talking about.

But, I gotta wonder where some of these people (ahem, I'm being nice) come up with these questions.

I probably have lots of questions, too. . .but I promise none of them are judgmental or accusatory!

Anonymous said...


Dropping in to say good bye. It has been a sudden decision for me to delete my blog. I may start one up one day, but for now I will be a lurker now and then. I really enjoy your blog, as you know, and you make me laugh a lot when I visit. I wish you well with your two younguns.



yerdoingitwrong said...

I love your blog. It's seriously my new favorite blog!! I can relate to lots of this stuff. My brother and I are 18 months apart and we're not very close. I'm very hard on my self. I don't know where my first hubby is and I'm QUITE okay with that.

Happy mama's day tomorrow, girl.


Rachel said...

Whatever! Your kids do have both parents!!!! You and Jason! Enought said!

my4kids said...

I can't beleive someone said you were rude! If they had read your blog how could they think that about your ex? Geez.
I love your answers though. And I don't think Christians have to be perfect. I consider myself a Christian but I KNOW I'm not perfect and never will be but I'm okay with that.
I would totally buy your book by the way Chick.

Shanilie said...

Happy Mother's Day! You're a wonderful mother and you need to pamper yourself today!

- Wow, some of those questions were VERY blunt. You answered them very well though. That is awesome that you have a great grandmother! Good long-life geans!

Anonymous said...

Some of the questions are entirely too personal and entirely too blunt. But, as always, you handled them very well!!

Happy Mother's Day....

Jocelyn said...

I'm going to take issue with anyone, even you, saying you're hard on yourself. I keep coming back here because you are refreshingly candid and shoot from the hip--and there's nothing wrong or negative about trying to look at the world with clear eyes.

Then again, I don't think Simon Cowell is cruel. I just think he's speaking the truth when no one else will.

Margarita said...

What's it like to be so cool?
HA! Happy Mother's Day SISTAH! Hope you had a fabulous one.

CPA Mom said...

I got asked the Swearing and Good Christian question too. Dear God, these people need to get a life.

And you didn't fail at your first marriage - your doufus ex- failed.