Friday, July 11, 2008

It keeps moving on.

So tomorrow is our anniversary. Five years.

We were going to renew our vows tomorrow at a cabin in the mountains. But we won't now. Job loss earlier in the year, the economy, everyone tightening their belts...it's just not a good time to spend money like that.

But it is a good time to be married five years.

It's odd. I know five years isn't some huge amount of time. I know that five years is a mere drop in the bucket. We're just babies. This has just started. My parents have been married nearly forty years. My sister, even, has been married almost twenty. Five years is just a blip on the radar of life.

But still.

We have memories. We have a life, together.
We have history.

Not all of it is good, mind you. There have been moments in which he has narrowly escaped my foot in his ass. I'm sure there are moments when I have narrowly escaped his. He's seen me at my best and at my worst. I had to watch him puke one day and then he wore a tank top in public and I didn't even divorce him. If that's not love, I'm not sure what is.

He supports everything I do. He's my biggest fan, and I'm his. He makes me laugh. He reigns me in. He might even read my book when it comes out.

He's my best friend.

Our anniversary doesn't just mark the day that we were married, it marks the day we became a family.


So tomorrow we won't be at a church, but we'll still be celebrating.


Because marriage, so far, means renewing those vows every single day.

34 comments:

Kiki said...

Happy anniversary! Today is my two week anniversary. Just of a relationship not of a wedding. :-)
5 years really is something, don't fool yourself. Enjoy your day together and remember all the great times that you have shared and remember that there are more to come.

Jana said...

YEA!!! Happy Anniversary! Don't discredit yourself, five years IS something! Have fun!

emily said...

Happy Anniversary! We celebrated our 5th this year as well. It seems like forever some days and some days it feels like a drop in the bucket. Depends on the level of PMS :)

Captain Steve said...

Hey, 5 years is a damn sight longer than a lot of people last, so happy anniversary!

BS said...

Happy Anniversary - here's to 5 more, then 5 more, then 5 more, then 5 more .....

the planet of janet said...

happy anniversary.

i totally understand this. we were married 5 years in april. and i can't remember (or don't want to) not being a complete family.

after 2 failed marriages (!!!!!), it was a knock-me-on-my-ass surprise that it could be so good.

yay for us all.

Kimberly said...

Oh how beautiful. I feel the same way about my sweetheart.

Catwoman said...

Congratulations! You've outlived most Hollywood marriages too, so that's something. I bet you Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon don't make it to 5 years.

Robyn said...

Hubby and I will be married 4 years next month and sometimes it feels like a lifetime!

Happy Anniversary -- congrats on realizing that every day is important, not just the "big" ones!

Mean Stepmom said...

My 10th anniversary is coming up next month. Time has flown by. Cherish these moments because you'll never get them back. Happy Anniversary, Chick!

Angie said...

This was one of the best things you've written so far.

Happy Anniversary, you guys!

Stephanie said...

Congrats! My mom always said the first five are the hardest.

B&K said...

Get this: My parents just celebrated their 58th Anniversary on July 2nd.

Yes I said FIFTY-EIGHTH!!! With the same person! And they still love each other and stuff. They even hold hands.

Amazing.

Me? I've been married three times. I guess I don't have what it takes, although I think this third one is going to take.

But congrats to you! Five is a great number. Here's to 25 more!!

Allie Bear said...

Happy Anniversary and 5 years is a huge deal, we celebrated our 5th anniversary last year and seriously every year is a big deal. 5 years is a long time especially this day and age and I hope you have another 50 great years with Jason.

Karin's Korner said...

Congrats!! This year will be #6 for me and for that I am grateful. I was married to my last husband for 20 long long years. I am so thankful to be in this one. He too is my best friend.

Snappy said...

Happy Anniversary! CONGRATS!

giants fan said...

happy anniversary!!

Dawn~a~Bon said...

Five years is WONDERFUL! I am really happy for you guys. I feel like you and I have sort of travelled down this road concurrently, and I'm so happy that we're both still loving the hubsters and haven't killed them yet! Much love to you and your hubs!

Misty said...

that it does...
and you know what? 5 years IS HUGE. It's a huge percentage of marriages don't make it that long. It's the big "hump" and that's AWESOME!

congratulations!

DeAnn said...

I agree with everything you said. Sunday is mine and my husband's 12th anniversary - so happy weekend to us!

I am Trish Marie said...

Happy Anniversary! And? Five years is pretty awesome.

Jennilu said...

Happy Anniversary!

Heather @ Desperately Seeking Sanity said...

Happy Anniversary!!!!

CPA Mom said...

That is beautiful Chick! 5 years is nothing to sneeze at - my late husband died just before we made it to 5 years so when HP and I got to 5 years I was thrilled and relieved. xoxo

KiKi said...

AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW. Happy anniversary and many more to come!

yaddayaddayaddablahblahblah said...

Congratulations and happy anniversary :)

velocibadgergirl said...

One of my favorite quotes of all time:

"Love doesn't just sit there, like a stone; it has to be made, like bread, remade all the time, made new." (Ursula K. LeGuin)

Happy, happy anniversary, my dear.

Tara said...

happy anniversary :)

squishytushy said...

Happy Anniversary!

Cheers to the next five years...!!

squishytushy said...

Happy Anniversary!

Cheers to the next five years...!!

Nen said...

Happy Anniversary!!! 5 Yrs is GREAT!

kristi said...

Happy 5th anniversary! IT IS A BIG DEAL!!

Jenski said...

Before you know it, you and Jason will be celebrating 20 and 40 years together too!

Girl from Pennsylvania said...

Hey, don't downplay that five years. You can go through a whole heck of a lot of things in five years. I am pretty sure you have too.

Congrats!