Friday, November 28, 2008

Who does what.

My husband really does a lot around the house and he also really, really enjoys when I praise him for this.

If I don't, in fact, he'll say to me, "Did you notice I vacummed the house/scrubbed the toilets/washed your bathrobe/made up the bed/myraid other things he does every single day?"

And I'll say, "Oh yes, thank you so much!"

And then he smiles.

It's very sweet.

I didn't really notice that the kids noticed how much he does, but they do. Yesterday we made a call to my family to wish everyone a Happy Thanksgiving and I heard my mom ask my daughter, "Did mom make you a nice Thanksgiving meal?"

And The Girl said, "My mom AND my dad did".

Because she knows. Dad does as much as mom in this house.

I really like that.

I like that we don't buy into the roles we're supposed to play. I like that mom brings home the bacon and dad fries it up in the pan (we both bring home the bacon, actually...and I haven't had fried bacon in years). I love that both my children recognize that we're all in this together.

I want, badly, to raise children who believe that things are equal. Not just out in the world, but in the home too.

I like today.


AndreAnna said...

Gah! This is what I try and tell people who infer otherwise. It;s not 1945 anymore. Men and women can be equal and I want my kids to know that and they will. So when people give me attitude when I say "No, he's THEIR father" when they ask me if "my husband is minding my kids while I'm out" I feel a little good inside.

We are both parents, both partners in our marriage and in our home. And though I feel lucky, I don't feel as if this is any different than the norm should be and feel sorry for those who don't have this.

Kimberly said...

That's so beautifully put. It doesn't have to be angst and raging against the system. It can be sweet moments like this that teach our children how much better things can be than they have been.

Alpha Dude 1.5 said...

You two are one awesome set of parents.

Nice job.


Teena in Toronto said...

You're lucky and blessed :)

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Anonymous said...

Equality what a concept lol. That is something I have with my bf that I never had with my ex. And that makes me sooo happy. Im all for doing stuff but love that he does as much as I do!

SJ said...

You kiddos noticing is surefire proof that you and Jason are amazing parents!

And I love your philosophy. Everyone should adopt it!