My husband really does a lot around the house and he also really, really enjoys when I praise him for this.
If I don't, in fact, he'll say to me, "Did you notice I vacummed the house/scrubbed the toilets/washed your bathrobe/made up the bed/myraid other things he does every single day?"
And I'll say, "Oh yes, thank you so much!"
And then he smiles.
It's very sweet.
I didn't really notice that the kids noticed how much he does, but they do. Yesterday we made a call to my family to wish everyone a Happy Thanksgiving and I heard my mom ask my daughter, "Did mom make you a nice Thanksgiving meal?"
And The Girl said, "My mom AND my dad did".
Because she knows. Dad does as much as mom in this house.
I really like that.
I like that we don't buy into the roles we're supposed to play. I like that mom brings home the bacon and dad fries it up in the pan (we both bring home the bacon, actually...and I haven't had fried bacon in years). I love that both my children recognize that we're all in this together.
I want, badly, to raise children who believe that things are equal. Not just out in the world, but in the home too.
I like today.