It is no secret that I love television. It is also no secret that I love really, really bad television. MTV's 16 and Pregnant is no exception. I've seen every episode (numerous times), the special extended episodes and I'm eagerly awaiting the "Life after Labor" reunion show. Which I will TiVo and probably watch more than once.
I got so angry at this show the other day, though. I cried and cried and cried. And I cry when I get really angry, so I know I was REALLY ANGRY.
It was the adoption episode. Out of all the girls/couples on this show, only one couple decided to give their baby up for adoption. Tyler and Catelynn.
Their families? Were all kinds of f'ed up. Catelynn? Had lived in thirteen different houses in sixteen years. Her mom apparently drives drunk and gets arrested for it on a semi-regular basis. At some point Tyler's dad, apparently after various prison stints, had married Catelynn's mom. So technically they were step-siblings. Far worse than that were his dad and her mom's attitude about giving the baby up for adoption. They? Were not supportive. In any way.
At one point, in fact, the father said to Tyler (who I believe is also sixteen years old), "I'll always think about that baby and how you didn't man up".
That? Was about the point in time that I got so angry I started screaming at the television and Jason told me to have a rest period.
That douche, who was out of his own child's life for the vast majority of it because he was in prision, is telling this CHILD who has far, far more sense than his own idiot father, he needs to man up? The same way he "manned up" by getting his stupid ass thrown in prision? OH. MY. GOOD. LORD.
Was it stupid for these two kids to get pregnant? Of course it was. Absolutely, 100% stupid. No doubt. But instead of acting on emotion, they took an honest and mature look at their lives and said, "You know what? Our baby deserves a better life."
How amazingly brave and selfless those two were. I am in awe that two teenagers, who seemed to have genuine love and affection for one other, could say, "She deserves better and we can't give it to her."
Tyler wrote his daughter a letter, that reads, in part:
This is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. The thought of what kind of dad I wanted to be and what you deserve just didn't mix. It's very hard to admit that you don't deserve me as your dad, but that comes with maturity and you have to be mature to be a parent. You were innocent. You didn't ask to be brought into this world and you didn't choose your parents. Your mom and me made an irresponsible mistake not using protection. I will not punish you for that.
Please. Someone tell me. How is this child not "manning up"? Because it seems to me that a real man isn't a selfish dbag and sometimes gives up something he really wants BECAUSE IT'S THE RIGHT THING TO DO.
Television makes me mad sometimes.
Television makes me cry sometimes.