Tuesday, September 18, 2007

Yeah...not really.

I got an email last night from someone I like and respect which said,

Sheesh! You’re a little rough on Brit-Brit aren’t ya?”

Then a smiley face. So I’d know she still loves me or whatever.

I thought about that email for over an hour. Because, really? As sarcastic and snarky as I am, I hate being mean. I don’t WANT to be mean.

And in real life, I’m like, The Queen of Nice. Except not like Rosie’s “Queen of Nice” which actually means “I’m a raving lunatic but I’m pretending to be nice for T.V. and possibly? I have issues”.

But really, I’m not a bad person. I help children and the homeless and I’m the first person to give someone another chance. For example, recently? When the girl who dresses the most skantastic at work was walking around with her nipples showing? I didn’t say, “Oh my GOD she needs to cover up her NIPPLES!” like I wanted to. I said, “Bless her heart, she must be cold.”

But anyway, the more I thought about what I said? The more I realized I’m not being mean to Britney.

Okay, because seriously? When my children were born I couldn’t afford soup, much less a nanny and a big fancy house and all the clothes that Gymboree has to offer. I couldn’t even afford Kmart clothes and diapers.

I didn’t lose custody of my kids.

I didn’t have so much money in the bank that if I just invested wisely I could easily live off the interest forever and ever and retire quietly to some small town in South Carolina or whatever and raise my children in peace. I had to find a job. A job that paid me $7.75 an hour.

I didn’t lose custody of my kids.

I went through an extremely painful, emotional divorce. I had been unceremoniously dumped and it hurt. It really, really hurt. The people I wanted to help me get through it did not help me. They instead told me that it was all my fault and if I had just been a better housekeeper/better with money/anything but me, he wouldn’t have left me. I didn’t have fans who loved me. I didn’t have people who even believed in me. And I? Didn’t really believe in myself.

I didn’t go on drugs.
I didn’t shave my head.
I didn’t freak out.
I didn’t pose naked.
And most of all, I didn’t lose custody of my kids.

I am not special. I am in no way extraordinary. I did what anyone should do. I straightened my back and fixed my life to the best of my ability. And I did it without money and fame. I did it without resources. I did it without hope and without love. I’m not cool enough to be friends with people like Paris Hilton, thank God, so I had to influence myself. For the Boy Child. For the Girl Child. And for myself.

It’s not miraculous to get through your life and not get arrested. It’s not miraculous to have a job and work hard and do what you have to do to take care of the people you love.

Britney is just not reality. And it frightens me that people look up to her.

And what frightens me the most? Is that two children are caught in the middle of this nonsense.

So…nope. I wasn’t being a little rough. Even if I get sent frowny-faces now.


Angie said...

You will never get a frowny face from me. I have been mortified at the attention that she has gotten. . . and you see where its led she and her family.

Makes me sad. . . for her kids.
But, dang am I ever proud of you. . . what an excellent post!

. . . and dinner? You name it . . we're there!

J said...

No frowny faces here honey. I think that someone who should be looked up to is any mother who has doen the right thing. Sacrifice for your kids is the one thing that we all do best, and no one (except other moms doing the same thing) sees it or understands it. Shame on Brit for acting out the way she does. If you want the cameras out of your face then stay at home with your kids and don't let the cameras in.

:) :) :) :) :) :) for you Chick!

frannie said...

I agree-- I really look down upon her. What a sad, sad human being.

and you are right- no one is asking that she be perfect. she act like a decent person, for goodness sake.

love you!

Girl from Pennsylvania said...

You know what I think ms. spears needs. A down to earth honest to goodness friend. She needs someone to tell her the truth and break it down for her that she is completely screwing up the lives of her children most importantly, but also herself.

BC if she was my friend, I would tell her to keep the bras and panties for another time and to put on something appropriate. I would also tell her to look at her priorities in life.

See, she just needs a good friend. Maybe I can be her good friend and she won't even have to buy me purses or anything!

Amy W said...

Brit is pathetic.

And you? You are special, cause you make me laugh my ass off.

Adventures in Baby Fat said...

Honestly, I think Brit-Brit needs to be on some medication because she is just in this manic state that is leading to what may eventually be her own mortal demise. Every time I hear about each new thing I can't help but think she needs to some serious psychiatric help.

She's paranoid, impulsive and self-destructive, and now potentially criminal by maybe putting out a hit on you K-Fed? That is not normal behavior, no matter how much you hate your ex. Seriously. She screams mental health disorder. It's actually really sad, and I am glad that at least K-Fed is involved in his children's lives, even if he's on it for the gravy train. Hopefully he'll be watched and those children will have a chance.

Heather {Desperately Seeking Sanity} said...


Kimberly Vanderhorst said...

I think you deserve a heaping handfull of happy faces for that post, because it was brilliant. I wish that post could be broadcast to the world so maybe, just maybe, it might shake some sense it some people.

Anonymous said...

Great post.... :) :) :)

I've had it with all the stuff on Britney. It's so incredibly sad for the kids and for her. She has so much money she could be mothering them and enjoying them with no financial worries.

It's really sad that some young women are influenced by her. What a horrible role model.

Sarcasta-Mom said...

Right on!

I've been in the same boat as you- alone, broke, and struggling, and still managed to take care of my kids and keep full custody.

It's disgusting that someone with all of that money and power can't find it in their selfish heart to make their children their first priority.

Unknown said...

No frownies from me. I agree 100%.

Anonymous said...

No frowns from this girl. You nailed it with this post. People need to stop saying "Poor Brit" and be all "Put your big girl panties on and get your head out of your arse. This is life."

:) :) :) :)

Anonymous said...

She has enough money to pay people to straighten her ass out!

And you? Now? Tons of fans! Especially me! I'm still waiting on my open letter, though.... Dear stalker, ...

my4kids said...

I didn't think you were mean or hard on britney. Just saying it like it is. Like you and everyone else has said she's being stupid, basicaly. I don't want to hear anymore of her whining she has more chances and opportunities then most of us do and she is screwing it up. Honestly I'm tired of hearing whining from those people like her with their poor me's really.

Shanilie said...

You weren't hard on her at all. Just saying it like it is. And really, that was very little compared to what you could have said....or what the tabloids say. She and her own mother admit that there are problems, she really needs to get her life back in order. She is a mother of 2 and you put it perfectly....
"I am not special. I am in no way extraordinary. I did what anyone should do. I straightened my back and fixed my life to the best of my ability. And I did it without money and fame. I did it without resources. I did it without hope and without love. I’m not cool enough to be friends with people like Paris Hilton, thank God, so I had to influence myself. For the Boy Child. For the Girl Child. And for myself."

Anonymous said...

Ha! I always talk about the southern way to talk shit about someone is to say "bless her heart."

Anonymous said...

Oh how you hit it on the nail once again.

You? Are the poster child of the classy single mom. You should be so proud of yourself and you are what everyone should strive to be. I know you can sometimes be really hard on yourself, but I hope that you realize how hard you've worked to get where you are today and that you are proud of what you've accomplished. I know that I am insanely proud for you and I think you are one freaking awesome chick and mom.

Mrs. Booms said...

First of all let me say... I lurked for a while and think you are hysterically funny. Second, I'm married to a Jason and don't they keep life interesting and third, right on sister. I was broke, in a state where I had no family, stuck in the house with my (ex)husband's mother who was going through chemo and all that entailed and his father who had just finished his cancer treatments. I had postpartum depression in a major way... I went through a fancraptastic divorce and had a boss that crapped on me in a super spectacular way. And never once in there did I shave my head, do drugs or go out clubbing every night in oh roughly half the clothes that one is supposed to wear in public.

The thing that irks me about the Brit is she doesn't even have the sense to listen to anyone else or the grace to go crawl under a rock and not come out until she's not freaking deranged.

Okay, that's it... The end.

After that gorgeous rant I bet you're really wishing I'd commented sooner.

I'm going to curl up in the fetal position now. I'm spent.

Much love.

mAsOn & tErrI's mOm said...

AMEN! I was left with $160.00, DEBT, and a 3month old. LIFE SUCKS! BUT you get real and take care of your babies. Don't get me wrong, after I GOT ON MY FEET I did go out and have a few drinks. But any decent mother wants and needs to be with her kids. Not having a nanny raise them.

Someone should have done something when she was driving around with her newborn in her lap!!!!

CPA Mom said...

I love you Chick. I love what you did with your life. Very, very well written. I'm proud to be your friend.

Rachel (Crazy-Is) said...

Ok, now I said in my comment on your last post that I think she's been through a lot the last couple of years. Don't think that means that I am defending her. I 100% agree with you.

I've been through a divorce, very little income, etc etc etc. I did not use drugs and there was never a thought in my mind that I would ever lose custody of my daughter. So, I don't have a whole lot of sympathy for the people that use that as an excuse.

Priscilla said...

My sister in law could have been Britney. Without all the money. Money or no money there are people out there bent on destroying themselves. It's just that Britney is so well known. Too bad. Pretty girl, lots of talent. You can take the girl out of the trailer but you can't. . . wait. . .I didn't say that.

EE said...

Well said!
I hope that someday she gets her act together for herself and her kids.
I keep imagining that what if Britney were my kid. It makes me so sad.
This poor girl needs to surround herself with people who truly care for her. She also needs Jesus desperately!

Edie said...

Amen to that!!
So many people in this world don't realize the true blessing they have recieved in having children. For those people who would do ANYTHING, absolutely ANYTHING to raise those children right, it hurts every day to hear more stupid nonsense that Britney has done. I can't stand to hear anything about her, honestly. I think she's just foolish.