Sunday, March 08, 2009

Destruction.

People come and go in my life, and I'm okay with that.

I have friends. A lot of friends. And I'm lucky.

There are a lot more people I've left behind. And that's okay too. Because there are reasons that people come and go from your life. Sometimes it's because you grow apart. Sometimes they aren't someone you need to be friends with anymore. And sometimes? There is no reason at all. People just drift apart. People move. People move on.

But if it's someone you love that's falling apart? That's hard.

If it's someone you love who is being self-destructive and making bad choices? It's harder.

And if you don't know what to do to help them? It's the hardest of all.

13 comments:

Kimberly said...

I'm so sorry you're watching that happen to someone you love. It's the hardest way to lose a friend, I think.

Sabrina said...

I'm always sad to see a friend leave my life even though they've had a great impact into it. I feel like part of me also dies a little. And to see friends making bad choices, that hurts especially when you don't know what to do to help them. Hang in there.

Supes said...

It's me, isn't it? I destroy my life all.the.time.

But if you're talking about that whole soup or salad thing, no worries. I shant regret the Caesar.

Anonymous said...

I know what you mean, you feel as if your hands are tied. They get offened when you try to help or say anything, Living thru that with a sibling of mine. you have to just set back as hard as that is, and just pray for them. and hope God hears the prayers. I hope your family member soon see the light. Same as I'm hoping mine does.

EE said...

I'm experiencing the same thing right now. It sucks, doesn't it?

Bethany said...

You could be me talking about my nephew.

Heather said...

I hear you. It is hard. I have been dealing with something similar for a little over a year with a friend. There is nothing you can do when they are blind to their actions. I pray for her, and that is about all I can do.

Heather said...

I hear you. It is hard. I have been dealing with something similar for a little over a year with a friend. There is nothing you can do when they are blind to their actions. I pray for her, and that is about all I can do.

Patience said...

You can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped! If you try to force the help on them, it won't be accepted.

You have to let them know that when they decide to turn their life around, you'll be there to support them. But you can't do that for them!

Believe me. I know.

ohthatgirl said...

I have a VERY self-destructive friend. She is never happy and for a long time I have tried to pep-talk her into happiness until I was blue in the face. I am starting to give up on the friendship because it is so exhausting, but I am scared to not be there for her...

SJ said...

It's very hard to watch someone you care for very much destroy themselves. You just have to keep the faith. And hope that they realize what they are doing before it's too late.

I've been through it. I know...

sinner with a future said...

Believe me, I know exactly what you are going through watching him destroy himself. He seems lower than ever before. Work is not everything and he's filling what little bit of free time he forces in with more unhealthy relationships. I keep waiting for that call from your mom that he's overdone again. I'm praying daily he'll let someone in. It's as if he people who love him the most are the ones he's pushing the hardest away. I've known him to be in a bad place before, but nothing like this. You're not by yourself in worrying about him.

sinner with a future said...

I will not give up on him or turn my back if he needs me, but I have to wait til he'll let me in because I've tried forcing my way in and it just makes him push against me harder.