Boy and Girl Child do not have the same last name as Jason and I. Oh, and the dog. Who's name, I recently learned, is Ginger B. Ourlastname. And the B? Apparently stands for "Bread".
Good to know.
When I gave birth to Boy and Girl Child their sperm donor was long gone. But we were still legally married and I was so dreadfully ashamed of having been left by my husband while I was pregnant and whatnot so Boy and Girl Child have that asshats last name.
I didn't change my name after I got divorced either. I wanted the three of us to have the same name. I figured it would cut down on the questions like, "You have two infants. Where the hell is your husband?"
(It didn't. It was just what I thought)
I was glad to change my last name when I married Jason. Our last name is pretty unusual but it's a nice name. I like it.
I do not like my children's last name. I did not like it when I married that douchewad and I don't like it even more now.
When I was in Kindergarten there was a little boy named Jamie in our class. He was an unmitigated ass. As an adult, I can look back on this person and realize that he probably had a really horrible family life and home and that's what made him act out in the ways he did. At the time, though, at age 4-5? I just thought he was so horrible.
One day Jamie came in to school and announced that his mother had married a man named Willis McCooterface (not really, I can't remember the man's name). Jamie further informed us that we were all to immediately begin referring to him as Jamie McCooterface.
The teacher insisted on calling him Jamie Vonbadboy. She refused to call him Jamie McCooterface.
I don't remember everything that was said. It was nearly thirty years ago. But I do remember, vividly, that they were shouting at one another. The teacher kept insisting that was NOT HIS NAME. He was sobbing, shrieking, flailing about on the floor, SCREAMING that she MUST CALL HIM JAMIE MCCOOTERFACE.
He had to go to the Principal's office. I remember that too.
Perhaps teacher's now are a bit more tolerant of blended families than they were in 1980. I don't know.
We've talked a lot about changing Boy and Girl Child's names. They insist they are part of the Ourlastname family. We don't do it because it would require contact with the sperm donor. I do not want contact with the sperm donor. My husband does not want contact with the sperm donor. Most importantly? My children do not want contact with the sperm donor.
They insist they will change their names legally at age 18. If they do, they will graduate under Ourlastname. It will be like they never had the sperm donor's last name at all, in terms of education.
But there will be other things.
Is a name that important? I just don't know.